Golden rules to marital bliss (2)

Kevin Shitsukane

There is more to making your marriage beautiful than being present. You have got to get your hands dirty seeing that you are two imperfect people that have become one. That said, it is not impossible to enjoy your marriage if you…..

Respect one another: True love yields great respect. Honour and respect your spouse regardless of their status, age, or post they are, respect them. Since we have been courting, my wife has embodied respect in unfothomable ways. She gave me the respect of a Christian brother like we met at church. Right from school and up till now she never called me by my first name. Same pet name up till now. Though this is one of herown code of respect, you may find calling one another by first name romantic. Your code of respect may be different.

Such a gesture is for your spouse only, not every one. Keep yourself for him or her only.

Feed your spouse: Growth is known with feeding. Feed your love with good food and sex. Let the man provide for his wife and let the woman be always responsible to make good meals for her husband. Don’t let your spouse lack good sex. Keep your body for your spouse. Make it pleasant and appealing. Be available!

Speak your spouse’s love language: Find out your spouse’s love language to satisfy them. Do not give him/her what you love. Give him/her what he/she loves.

Obey him, Love her: Man must give orders as the head. Women obey first even when not pleasant or convenient. Pray and Discuss it. God owns the heart of the kings. Your husband is the king. God knows how to control him to suit you. Kings love your Queens! Cherish her and honour her!

Work for trust: Trust is built and earned not gained! Let your behaviour and character build up trust for you by your spouse. Work for trust! It is not automatically gained.

Apologise always: Learn to apologise always when at fault. Even if you are not sure who was right or wrong, for peace sake apologise. The partner that seeks peace is the closest to the mind of God. Always be the peace maker.

Show care and concern: Be mindful of your spouse’s situation either good or bad. Remember their special days, celebrate your spouse on his/her birthday. Take care when they are sick, tired or weak. Do not neglect your spouse for any reason. Stand with them!

When trust is wanting, discord is obvious.

Keep your friendship alive: Every relationship is started with friendship so do not lose it. When friendship stops, a relationship is no longer interesting.

Keep Your Friendship alive! Keep the life glowing. Let your spouse be your best friend. Court your spouse over and over! Courtship is sweet!

Do not substitute your spouse with anyone: You and your spouse are one in unity of body and spirit. Do not give out your spouse’s space to another. Your mother, father, sibling or any relative must not take the place of your spouse.

Be faithful: For no reason should you be unfaithful to your spouse. Keep your bed pure. Let his or her body satisfy you. Let his or lips satisfy you. When you feel unsatisfied, speak out! Work both on the difference. When your spouse complains, handle the situation with great wisdom. Do not push him or her out! If you have offended in this please stop! Do not continue but repent!

Work out your marriage: A good marriage is not made from heaven, you’ve got to work out what you want in your marriage. A good marriage is hard work and not for lazy couples. When you see flourishing marriages, know that they are working it out! Prepare to work for a good marriage by faith. We shall all have marital Bliss in Jesus’ name.

I pray for every home having marriage problems, for supernatural solutions towards marital bliss in Jesus name.

I pray for many in wrong relationships, that God Almighty will disconnect them supernaturally from such relationships and settle them in their God’s will relationships in Jesus Mighty Name.


Golden Rules to Marital Bliss! (1)

Kevin Shitsukane

Marriage takes work, oh yes, work. You cannot expect two people of different genders from different backgrounds and so many more differences to simply jell and ride along. There will be spikes, suprises, challenges, uncertainities and so much more. That said, the pains that these will bring your way can be softened if we can…..

Marry right: Do you love marital bliss? Marry right. How? Marry in the Lord. Marry your kind. You are a believer, marry a believer! Why? So you can speak the same language, obey the same Lord and Master. When the husband says; “As a woman you must be submissive in all”, the woman won’t say, “No way! We are equal! You can’t be my head!”

Secondly, in obedience to God. The word of God says: do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. Marry your friend! Who is your friend? Someone that understands you. Someone that will play with you. Someone that can take your misbehaviour as nothing. Someone that will see you as his or her mate. You will not marry your enemies in Jesus’ name.

Love one another: Love is not just a feeling, though it may start out as a feeling, it is the reality of marriage; it is accepting, enduring, and forgiving one another. If your love remains just a feeling, it can only start a relationship but cannot make a home and marriage.

Marriage tests your love for one another. All the ‘I love you’ you have said, will be tested in marriage.

Forgive: Offence will always come, even the unexpected, always forgive and forget the past. Anything whatsoever can cause disagreement between couples. Don’t push offence under the carpet! Discuss it and forgive one another.

Marital bliss is possible but it takes work.

Behave like nothing happened after you have settled it! Don’t bring up a past offence. I can’t count how many times I have offended my wife, or she has offended me. But when we resolve, it has become our past.

Don’t let your disagreement linger more than necessary. Forgive in time, whatsoever! Have this aim in your mind that your disagreement will not tear you apart but will build you up. Learn from your disagreements.

Give: Give your all to one another. Give your time, money, food, clothing, body and all you have to one another even when it is not convenient. What you have is for both of you. Giving solidifies relationships and marriage. It enhances love. Give time to time, give every day, give occasionally. A giver is always a lover!

Do not keep secrets: Open your heart fully to one another. Secrets when found hurt your partner too deeply, and can lead to other things, even divorce. Be open as much as possible. There is really no secret. All shall be opened one day!

Disallow third party negative influence: Offence will come from friends and family. Always stay together as one. Don’t allow third-party influence to affect your family bond negatively.

When you fail to do something, your marriage gets stained.

If you need help, it is better to consult a God-led counsellor together or individually, instead of telling friends and family who may take sides and make the situation worse.

Help one another: Do not see anything as your partner’s duty. When your partner needs your help in any capacity you can, HELP! At home, share house chores! Share responsibilities. Share bills. If you are a woman and you are financially capable, do not wait for your husband to beg you. Do the right things at home. Bear challenges together. Do not let your partner feel any weight when you are not carrying anything. You are there to help!

Always do things together: This keeps your closeness. Plan, Eat, Sleep, Play, Pray, Bath, Work and Go out together. Create time for it. Have fun together. There is nothing we don’t do together in my marriage. Be together, and stay together. Be united!

Keep your secret secret: Be loyal to one another and keep your secret with one another. Don’t tell your partner’s secret to anyone.

Have one family: See your families as one, even when you think they are not good. Otherwise, it will build up division in the home. Each of you may want to support his or her family. This will keep separating your own home.